Pictures by Eva
Growing up I remember stories about models and about how they are trying to harm each other and put nails in other girls shoes? And I thought is that really true? Are they so blinded with competition they would hurt others in such pathetic way? I have never been a high fashion constantly booked out model but I have done commercial work, was going round castings in London too and the truth is I never came across anything like that. Lot of my friends are still in modelling industry and although you hear some stories you also see friendships…I am talking strong friendships for life. These girls support each other, they are now married and some sadly divorced and some with children and they help each other in tough times but still share the happy moments in their life. They are true friends and that is not on the merit of number of likes, type of jobs they were working but based purely on their qualities, what they love and how they are.
In lot of ways I always compare modelling to blogging. There are so many similarities I can think of but is it similar with friendships? I personally love hanging out with other bloggers, I love to chat about what we have in common and that is fashion and beauty. I have met some amazing people thanks to what I do and I am grateful for that. Do I have friends in blogging? Yes. However from some strange reason some friendships in this industry come and go which also can be natural in life too. I believe people come to your life for a specific reason. You are meant to teach them something or they teach you something. Some friends can come for short periods and some stay your friend for years. I simply believe once the lesson is over the friendship can naturally goes away. And there is nothing wrong with that it is a natural way of life and karma.
I heard some awful stories about friendships in blogging however I want to stick to stay positive so do not want to go to detail about it. I tell you where I stand and how I see it. I believe blogging is like any other industry yes you can have friends but you also remain to be professional, you network and you build up your network further. It is natural, there is always part of business in this. If you name any industry whether that is film, fashion, law, advisory, venture capital etc. people know their “competitors” they can have business meetings, they meet at networking events as they know they can all benefit from each other in many ways even if it is only expanding on their market knowledge. They are able to talk about latest trends in their field, they are able to have a small talk and get on. And that is important.
So I believe there are some friendships but also lot of business “transactions” going on in blogging. And that is also fine as you simply would have tons of friends and friendship needs a bit of love and maintenance. You have to invest in real friendships and treasure it and you simply could not do it with everybody. There are apparently 505 million blogs based on figures from 2018 so that clearly shows you cannot maintain so many good quality friendships. We all can remain professional though and keep this industry going in the right direction so there are no ugly “friendship” stories, there are no users, no victims and hate. If anybody wants to see this more as a business that is OK too but we can still support each other.
Kdyz jsem vyrustala, hrozne jsem obdivovala modelky a uz v nejakych deseti jsem si strasne prala take byt ta kraska, ktera brazdi mola. Neptejte se proc, nejak vnitrne to tam zkratka bylo. Na druhou stranu me uz v brzke puberte sokovaly pribehy o zasti modelek a o tom jak si navzajem nechavaji hrebiky v botach. Je to ale vubec pravda? Dnes premyslim, zda by nekdo byl tak ubohy, aby ublizil jenom kvuli tomu, ze citi konkurenci. Ja jsem nikdy nebyla zadna top modelka, spise komercni prace bokem a obrazeni nejednoho castingu v Praze a v Londyne, ale uprimne jsem se osobne s nicim takovym nesetkala. Spousta mych kamaradek stale pracuji jako modelky a muzu rict, ze maji mezi sebou pratelstvi tak silna, ze by mohl kdekdo zavidet. Pratelstvi, ktere zaruci, ze vas ten druhy podrzi v tezke situaci, ale take se spolu zasmejte tak, ze se valite po zemi. A nejsou to pratelstvi zalozena na poctu lajku nebo na tom, kdo pracoval pro jakou znacku. Jsou to pratelstvi zalozena na sympatiich a charakteru cloveka.
V hodne aspektech mi blogovani pripomina modeling a vidim spousty podobnosti. Ale jak je to v blogovani se skutecnym pratelstvim? Ja osobne se rada vidam s blogerkama, protoze mame hodne spolecneho, vasen pro modu a kosmetiku a tak je casto o cem si povidat. Mam pratele v oboru? Ano mam….ale nejak mam pocit, ze pratelstvi mezi blogery prichazi a casto i odchazi. Nevim proc, ale byla jsem svedkem pratelskych vztahu, kdy bez sebe kamaradky nemohly byt pomalu ani vterinu az se neco stalo a ted se treba ani nepozdravi. Jak je to mozne? Ja osobne verim v tom, ze lidi prichazi do naseho zivota z nejakeho duvodu, bud se mame neco naucit od nich, nebo mi mame naucit neco je. A kdyz je lekce u konce, muze zkoncit i pratelstvi. A neni treba se za to nejak trestat, je to prirozeny kolobeh zivota a karmy.
Za tu dobu co bloguju, jsem slysela silene pribehy o druhych blogerkach, ale vzdy rikam, ze chci tento blog vest pozitivnim smerem a tak nebudu zachazet do detailu. Spis chci rict muj nazor. Ja verim, ze blogovani je jako kazdy jiny obor. Ano muzete najit pratele, ale hlavni je dulezite zustat profesional, udrzovat networking a take si budovat kontakty. Je to prirozene a i blogovani je business. Kdyz se zamyslite jak to maji jine obory, je to stejne..co treba film, prava, moda, poradenstvi, venture capital…vsichni profesionalove z oboru znaji alespon par lidi od konkurence, schazi se a ziskavaji neco jeden od druheho, i kdyby to byla treba jen znalost trhu. Kazdy vi, ze tyto znamosti vam vzdy mohou neco prinest.
A opravdu verim, ze nejaka skutecna pratelstvi existuji, ale neni jich tolik jak je nam predhazovano na socialnich mediich. V blogovani je hodne takovych “business transakci” a to je take v poradku. Je to normalni vec ve vsech oborech. Nejde byt opravdovy kamarad se vsema ( i kdyz nam to nekteri na socialnich mediich takto maluji). Opravdove pratelstvi neco stoji a je treba dost casu a spoustu lasky. Podle udaju z roku 2018 je na svete 505 milionu blogu a tak uz chapete, ze je nemozne byt kamarad se vsema. Co je ale dulezite je vest svet blogovanim spravnym smerem, zachovat profesionalitu, podporovat se, at uz se nikdo z nas nemusi dozvidat o vice “osklivych” blogerskych pratelstvich.
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